Wedding Thoughts

Hi All-

So after the reality of being slapped with floral costs..is addition to all the other costs that you grin and bear it through for a wedding, I began to think about weddings and the process of planning and paying for these weddings.

I then came to the conclusion, that the reception (of course, as we all know) is a giant party, in which we celebrate with those who are near and dear to us, and eat, drink, and be married. I love the thought of all of that, just not the cost. Especially for the girl, who 7 months ago or more, said to my own mother, I do not want to spend money on things like florals that do not last a long time, and then die 3 days later and we reap no long term benefit from it. Makes sense, right? It seems practical and rational and a good budget making decision. But after making seemingly budget conscious decisions throughout this process, getting the proposal from the florist knocked me off my feet. I only wanted a few pew markers, flowers at the alter, and then flowers as centerpieces...but oh how it adds up.

And I realized that I want these things, because 1. these flowers and centerpiece ideas that I have spent a lot of time on, I see as a reflection of me and my style, 2. I want to have a fabulous party, that is beautiful and that people will outwardly acknowledge is beautiful, 3. I only get to do this once, right? But the flowers have NOTHING, nada, zip, zlich, zero, goose egg to do with my future marriage. It is amazing how vain we all become or how materialistic in this whole process...

Which brings me to my real point, the point of the wedding ceremony is to be in communion with God and future hubs, and with the support of a community of believers around you, who are also vowing to make this long, hard journey called marriage a successful one for myself and future hubs. I love, desperately needing to cling on to that thought, kind of love the simplicity and pure beauty in all of that. So why, why do I find myself so drawn to wanting to spend thousands on flowers?! For the party of course, for all those silly reasons that I listed above. But while I do not know how the flower thing is going to work out, I need the gentle reminder, that this is NOT ABOUT FLOWERS, or cake, or matching tablecloths, or even gifts.

It is about love. So though I still don't have the answers to the questions in my head, I do need sometimes to have that gentle reminder that it is not all about the things in life.
I am looking forward to June 29th, 2013, with or without those mason jar florals. It will be the most beautiful day in my life to date. I am marrying a man who would do just about anything for me, my parents are paying for this fabulous event, and we have been able to invite many of our family members and good friends to witness this marriage, and also celebrate in a party.

Count you blessings, and know that its not about the wedding, its about the marriage.
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